Further from my post about serial multi-buying, I now have a situation which anyone could have predicted: I have nothing to wear. I do have several decent and nice outfits to wear to the office, or at home, or to see friends or go shopping. But there’s a specific occasion coming up: My son’s graduation.
I’ve always had a problem with school events. When the the children were younger I ummed and arred about what would be suitable parent’s evening attire. If I was coming straight from the office there was no problem as I always wore a suit and it would be obvious it was a work outfit. But if not: would jeans be too casual? Would one need to wear something more respectable to show the teacher one appreciated and valued her efforts? Then there were the other parents: the competitiveness didn’t end with the children’s achievements. If I wore something too flashy I could feel the eyes of the other mothers bore into me; if I was too casual same thing, or if I wore clothes deemed too young, there’d be some snide comment about, ‘That suits you so well, I’ve seen those but haven’t dared to get one myself’ (this was about Karen Millen jeans jacket). ‘I think I’m too old for jeans now’ (false laughter). Women can be so cruel.
When the children grew up and started to have their own opinions about my outfits, it became even more difficult. Any sexiness, including high heels, too tight white shirts (yes the white shirt/jeans combo has been with me for a long time…) or dresses that were too short were banned. So I wore black trousers with low pumps and a sober jacket of some sort. Mercifully their critical phase didn’t last long.
Then came the university visits. Whatever you wear to those, you do not want to look like your daughter. I’ve seen mothers who obviously share their wardrobe with their off-spring. To me this looks weird, and shows some lack of individuality. By this stage the children didn’t care what I looked like as long as I drove them to the various establishments, criss-crossing the country, gave them enough money and didn’t say a word. (Asking a question at Q&A sessions during the final marketing spiel by the uni were particularly banned). Finally I could be myself. So jeans and jacket and a white shirt it was.
Now I have a completely different challenge: what does one wear as the Mother to a Oxford graduation ceremony? The men have it easy with a smart suit and tie. But us girls, what do we wear?
A dress? A suit? I have some ideas, but cannot think whether these would be any good. So, over to you.
Isabella Oliver Classic Wrap Dress – Too boring & casual?
DKNY Wrapover Dress Net-a-Porter – Too evening cocktails?
Diane von Furstenberg Net-a-Porter – Too young? I would need to wear a cover-up which could make it too casual?
Issa at Net-a-Porter – I love this dress but it’s beyond my budget…and is this right for the occasion either?
Please all you fashion bloggers out there, help!